Behind the Times

I’m a perfectionist…

Sometimes that works in my favor and I excel at the task before me.

Sometimes it hinders me to the point of halting all progress.

You may have noticed I haven’t posted in a while…I got behind and my perfectionist/OCD brain wouldn’t let me sit down to write until I could “catch up” (as in, catch up on all the days I’ve missed) I had a plan for this blog to write one post a day and when I skipped a day, my anxiety kicked in, my brain panicked, and my ability to write was gone. This is a bad thing for someone who normally has no problem getting thoughts “on paper” and is ocd about completing the job.

This concept of “being behind” has always been a difficult one for me. If I don’t think I can finish something, I often won’t try or I will start and get behind and give up. I have so many unfinished craft/sewing/home improvement projects from the last 30 years…it’s really quite dizzying. Every one of those unfinished tasks weighs on me and feeds negative thoughts to my brain…lies about how unsuccessful I am or how unreliable I am or how foolish I was to think I could do that.

Covid-19 has forced me to change the way I think about things. There are many tasks I can’t complete now. Many resources and businesses are closed, hindering my progress on a variety of levels. But this very situation has forced me to shift my thinking to what I CAN do right now…and guess what? I CAN post to my blog. I CAN write long overdue letters. I CAN put pictures in scrapbooks or make photo books. I CAN make new habits like a daily prayer journal. I CAN go Live on social media to stay in touch with friends and family. I CAN cook something new from Pinterest. I CAN purge that closet that’s been nagging at me. I CAN spend time encouraging and enjoying my hubby.

My day may not look like it did a month ago, but in some ways that’s not such a bad thing. I CAN do simple things with much thought and love. And I CAN make a difference just by sharing me…right here…where I’m at today.

What about you? What have you decided you CAN do today?


words of affirmation

My post yesterday prompted this one. If you’ve ever read the book “The Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman, you’ll understand when I say this is my love language…words of affirmation. Quality time is a very close second, but words are extremely powerful for me. After years of feeling like I never measured up (as a daughter, sister, wife, mother, friend) nothing says I love you to me like a word of affirmation. This translates to me as “you have worth and you are treasured and you are important to me.”

http://www.developgoodhabits.com describes how powerful words of affirmation can be… “Positive affirmations release you from anxiety, negativity, guilt, fear, and pain.” So they actually free us up to enjoy the moment without worrying about what others think about us and without dwelling on our own negative perception of ourselves.

There are so many positive affirmations of us in the Bible, I couldn’t possibly list them all here. When God sees us, He sees the good that He created not the failures of our past. As His child, I have been forgiven and redeemed which means God sees a pure and beautiful version of me, not a disappointing failure.

Look around you today…who looks like they could use a word of affirmation? I bet you’ll see a lot more people than you thought! Make a difference in someone’s day by giving them a word of affirmation and comment below to tell us how it went. I can’t wait to hear about the lifted spirits you are sure to see!