Most of you know I’m a lady boss with a home based business.
I don’t often share my goals because they often scare me and they’re way more terrifying when I see them in print but this month, I’m working hard toward a pretty big milestone…
A promotion. It’s a biggie and the reality is it probably won’t happen until fall.
The thing is…if we wait until we think it will happen to work for it, it may not happen at all. Success comes from consistent, small steps toward a specific finish line.
Soooo, this month I’m working hard to fill my calendar through the end of the year with vendor events and online girls night events. Being new to FL, I’m having to do a lot of digging to find the best events to participate in. If you have a festival or vendor market that you love here in central FL, would you share the date and location in the comments? Or if you’d like to gather your girlfriends for a 30 second hair style class, send me a message.
I’ll keep y’all posted on the progress…
because each one of you is truly the wind beneath my wings
Every year I do the same thing…set huge, “pie-in-the-sky” goals that will radically change my life for the better.
The problem is…in my 50+ years, I’ve never achieved any of them…not a single one.
This failure to achieve over and over and over again, subconsciously tells me that I’m not good enough or strong enough and that deep down, I’m a failure.
2021 is the year that I let go of that plan of action and choose to take a different path…one that is gentler with myself and one that celebrates my successes instead of beating myself up for my failures.
This year, I am choosing to set ridiculously tiny goals….ones that seem silly because they are so easy to reach…ones that are daily activities to create good habits…ones that will reinforce my efforts…ones I can celebrate on a regular basis.
This year, I choose to recognize the good things and celebrate progress even if that progress is miniscule.
This year, I choose to focus on what I’m doing right instead of what I did wrong or didn’t do at all.
This is the year I choose to love myself.
Is this your year? I hope you will join me in choosing to love and celebrate oneself in 2021…
PS: If you’re curious about how I got to this mind shift, this book explains it very well…
“Mini Habits: Smaller Habits, Bigger Results” by Stephen Guise
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At what point have you failed? What does that look like? If you’re at a complete standstill, have you failed?
There are times when I’ve been moving backward without even realizing it. Or sometimes spinning my wheels with everything I’ve got and not going anywhere. I choose not to call that failure UNLESS… I refuse to acknowledge my reality and do something to change it.
I believe steady progress in a desired direction is success. It may not have all the recognition and WOW factor of having achieved a huge goal of some sort, BUT IF YOU’RE STILL MOVING TOWARD AN END POINT, YOU’RE NOT FAILING. Very few of us sprint to the finish line…life just isn’t that simple and the path isn’t often clear or straight. I walk….a lot, but that still counts as making progress. Actually, to be honest, I crawl… A LOT.
But crawling is needed to develop the habits of persistence and self discipline. Those muscles must be developed before we can stand or walk or eventually run and jump. And we have to be focused on exactly what we’re trying to achieve. That focus is what reminds us to try again, and again, and again…
So if you’re still moving, you’re not failing!
What are some things you have had to crawl to in order to succeed?
I was not feeling well a while back, so I wrapped myself in a blanket and curled up on the couch with a good book in hand and a cup of tea. From there, I could see out the window and observe our front yard and front porch. It was spring time and the birds were very active, particularly one very determined Robin.
Just inside the edge of our front porch, is a spot where the support pillar meets the roof. The pillar is wide enough that, as the roof starts it’s incline, there remains a small ledge right in the corner. It’s well protected from the elements and almost completely hidden from view, except if you happen to be at my vantage point in the living room…our split level house puts you right at eye level with this particular spot. And that is the spot this Robin decided to build her nest.
Every year a robin attempts to build a nest here. I don’t know if it’s the same robin or not, but every year, as soon as a nest starts to appear, we try our best to keep knocking it down. The birds make a huge mess of our front porch and often an egg or baby falls from the nest, which is heartbreaking to me, so we try our best to keep the nest from being built.
But the robin does not give up easily…she is determined to finish the job she started and thus begins a battle of wills. She works tirelessly to complete her task and we work tirelessly to keep it from being built. She is single minded to the task at hand and knows what the outcome of her labor will be. We however have many other things on our mind and are constantly distracted from our task of thwarting her efforts. In just 24 hours, that robin can have her entire nest built and her eggs laid and once that happens, I don’t have the heart to knock it down.
As I watched her fly back and forth, over and over again, I realized she was 100% focused on her ROI (return on investment). She knew that the small twigs she was bringing one at a time would add up to something worthwhile…something necessary to the survival of her family. Her persistence and hard work paid off and by the end of the day, she was sitting comfortably in her new nursery ready to start her next task of raising her family.
We all have one thing in common…24 hours in a day. What varies, wildly, is how we choose to spend that time. I’m learning, from that robin, to single-mindedly focus on the one thing that will bring me the greatest ROI. She was not distracted by our efforts to stop her or by what the other birds in the yard were doing. She remained focused until the task was complete and her reward was a perfectly crafted nursery for her soon to arrive family. When the nest was complete, she shifted her focus to the next ROI, nurturing her eggs, and then her family. Her focus remained on her ultimate ROI…a new flock of robins who were healthy, knew where to find food and knew how to fly. She wasn’t distracted with other things like how pretty her nest was, what the latest and greatest building materials were or what other birds were doing, ..she just hunkered down and got the job done.
We all have that same opportunity… To be singleminded
To focus on what will bring us the most return on our investment of time and energy
To complete a task and move on to the next one that will move us closer to our ultimate goal.
To keep our end goal In mind through the entire process…and THAT is the driving force behind any success.
What is your driving force? Are you getting a ROI for the tasks you are doing today? Are those tasks getting you closer to your end goal or are they simply spinning your wheels and wasting your time? Is your end goal important enough to you to keep you’d focused and motivated? Answering these questions can make a huge impact on literally anything you set your mind to…
What do you have your eyes fixed on? Are you making progress or just spinning your wheels?
2020…it’s a new year full of expectations, dreams, and unwritten pages in the story of your life. Everyone is making New Years Resolutions and I’m feeling a calm and a joy knowing that I am not. For the first time ever, I am not going to set those ridiculous and unrealistic goals for myself when I know I am destined to fail at every single one.
What I AM going to do is commit to this 52 week Gratitude Challenge and learn to live in the moment…soaking in the blessings instead of striving and stressing to reach what I don’t have. I want to change my focus to what I DO have and CAN do. I want to see the beauty in everything around me. I want to relish the experiences of life even in the tiniest of moments. I want to be happy and I want to laugh…not just once in a while, but every single day.
Care to join me in this challenge? Comment below and let me know!