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Week 2: My Spouse/significant other

This is going to be a hard one for me to write. This is my second marriage and my hubby & I have been married for almost 3 years now. I’m not quite sure where to start…so many things to be grateful for!

Marriage is not perfect…I don’t care who you are and how much you love your spouse, marriage is hard. I’m wiser now, well, older anyway and have experienced many ups and downs of life. I’ve learned circumstances, whether good or bad, can either draw 2 people towards each other or push them completely away. The choice is yours…life is going to happen and people are not perfect, so we have to decide what’s most important to us and how we’re going to react when curve balls are thrown at us.

I love my husband. Probably more than I have ever loved another human being. And these are the things that I am most grateful for when I think about him…

His tender heart…if he knows I’m hurting, literally everything stops. He makes the world stand still so he can comfort me.

His laughter…he doesn’t laugh often but when he does, my heart melts every time…I treasure that sound.

His work ethic…he works his own business and is on call all the time. There are days he leaves early and comes home after midnight. There are days when he doesn’t have a call to make and he spends his time working on home improvement projects or organizing the garage. Sometimes I have to remind him that it’s ok to relax, play, and enjoy life, too!

His belief in God…this is something we share, and I believe it makes out marriage better.

His ability to see right through me…he knows when something is bothering me and coaxes it out of me, so that I don’t “stuff it” and let it fester. Sometimes it takes a while, but he’s patient and doesn’t move on until it’s resolved.

His willingness to apologize…”I’m sorry” is such a tender, beautiful phrase and is an obvious act of love.

His blunt words…I never have to guess what he’s thinking LOL! But truly that is something I’m thankful for…my anxiety will conjure up all sorts of crazy scenarios when I can feel there’s something “wrong” but don’t know what it is.

His patience…my anxiety is sometimes a wild and crazy thing, but he understands and becomes my rock for me when I need it.

His understanding…when I need to go to the barn for some quiet, alone time with my horse (AKA my therapy sessions), he encourages me to go, knowing I always come back more at peace.

His desire to fix everything for everyone…this sometimes gets him in trouble, but his heart is genuine and I love this about him.

There are more, but I’ll save the most personal ones to share with the one I love. In 2020, I promise to look for the good things instead of the bad in every area of my life but most especially when it comes to my man!

What things make you grateful for your spouse/significant other?

4 thoughts on “Week 2: My Spouse/significant other”

  1. My heart and realizing it is ok to have a difference of opinions and my significant other realized that too.

  2. Laurie, I’m glad that you have chosen to see the good in your Beloved. Keith and I just celebrated our 49th anniversary. Yes, marriage is hard work, but it is definitely worth it. You are God’s gift to your husband. What if you looked at your husband and remembered that he is God’s son? That perspective has changed many marriages. Wishing you a 2020 filled with love, joy, and gratitude. Karen

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